Write about a loss: something (or someone) that was part of your life, and isn’t any more.
When I first read this and thought about the three part idea it was a bit intriguing as to what my topic would actually end up being about by the time that I get to part three. I was not certain if the losses should be about times in my life where material things were taken out of my life without my having any power over it. Then it occured to me that material things were always replaced. They were only temporary in this life. They were not human or an animal with feelings. We might have sentimental feelings about them, however, once they have vanished from our lives we do carry on without tears. When we lose a loved one, be it a human or an animal we do shed a lot of tears. Some people mourn much longer than others. There is no time period set on how long a person is to mourn a loss.
Gamblers mourn a loss of a game. That does not stop them from betting the next one and perhaps losing big again. It is still a loss but it is not the same pain that is felt as a loss of a loved one. To lose a tennis match is a small ouch compared to having your dog get hit by a car. Yet some peoples reactions are such that they resemble the same. People become so caught up in the moment that every emotion comes into play. They feel the adrenalin rushing into their system and have a complete reaction. Some people do not recover as well as others. Those people tend to slowly sink into a deep depression. This does not happen over night.
PTSD is a form of depression as it takes a person back to a bad place in their life and has them re-live that over and over as if they were there and right back in that moment in time. There is no cure at the moment for this and it is one of the hardest forms of depression to be diagnosed. It not only takes a toll on the person that is suffering from it but also the family that is with that person and lives through that same moment as well. We will explore this further in the next part of the series.
The depression begins slowly. They begin to not care about things that they used to. What goals they had set for themselves are suddenly fading. Doing things becomes a real chore. As each day progesses they find themselves doing less of what used to make them happy. I have watched a few friends who are slowly climbing into the dark hole of depression and it is very sad. It is very difficult to watch and although you want to try and help, they are the only ones who can help themselves.
The largest problem with a person with depression is a lot of times, they don’t realize that they are really depressed. They do not realize that it is happening to them. They can’t see the gradual changes that you have been seeing. They don’t see the changes in their behavior and manorisms. They do not see the decline in the lifestyle that you do on the outside looking in. That is the most painful part.
What can you do to help?
We will explore that in parts II and III so come back….