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Writing 101: Day 5 A Brief Encounter (Part II of A Part III Series of Day 4)


writing-101-june-2014-class-badge-2You discover a letter on a path that affects you deeply. Today, write about this encounter. And your twist? Be as succinct as possible.

The letter read that he had left because of his PTSD.  He knew how much his crying out at night was upsetting her and he did not want to hurt her any more.
He loved her with all of his heart and owed her every thing.  He did not feel it was fair to make her suffer the way that he did each night in his mind as he relived his war days.
As I turned the envelope over I could see drops of tears on the front with slight drips of mascara.

On the bottom, there was an impression of a kiss with a scribbled note that said I will find you.


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Writing 101: Day 4, Losses in Life (Part One of a Three Part Series)


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Write about a loss: something (or someone) that was part of your life, and isn’t any more.

When I first read this and thought about the three part idea it was a bit intriguing as to what my topic would actually end up being about by the time that I get to part three.  I was not certain if the losses should be about times in my life where material things were taken out of my life without my having any power over it.  Then it occured to me that material things were always replaced.  They were only temporary in this life.  They were not human or an animal with feelings.  We might have sentimental feelings about them, however, once they have vanished from our lives we do carry on without tears.  When we lose a loved one, be it a human or an animal we do shed a lot of tears.  Some people mourn much longer than others.  There is no time period set on how long a person is to mourn a loss.

Gamblers mourn a loss of a game.  That does not stop them from betting the next one and perhaps losing big again.  It is still a loss but it is not the same pain that is felt as a loss of a loved one.  To lose a tennis match is a small ouch compared to having your dog get hit by a car.  Yet some peoples reactions are such that they resemble the same.  People become so caught up in the moment that every emotion comes into play.  They feel the adrenalin rushing into their system and have a complete reaction.  Some people do not recover as well as others.  Those people tend to slowly sink into a deep depression.  This does not happen over night.

PTSD is a form of depression as it takes a person back to a bad place in their life and has them re-live that over and over as if they were there and right back in that moment in time.  There is no cure at the moment for this and it is one of the hardest forms of depression to be diagnosed.  It not only takes a toll on the person that is suffering from it but also the family that is with that person and lives through that same moment as well.  We will explore this further in the next part of the series.

The depression begins slowly.  They begin to not care about things that they used to.  What goals they had set for themselves are suddenly fading.  Doing things becomes a real chore.  As each day progesses they find themselves doing less of what used to make them happy.  I have watched a few friends who are slowly climbing into the dark hole of depression and it is very sad.  It is very difficult to watch and although you want to try and help, they are the only ones who can help themselves.

The largest problem with a person with depression is a lot of times, they don’t realize that they are really depressed.  They do not realize that it is happening to them.  They can’t see the gradual changes that you have been seeing.  They don’t see the changes in their behavior and manorisms.  They do not see the decline in the lifestyle that you do on the outside looking in.  That is the most painful part.

What can you do to help?

We will explore that in parts II and III so come back….

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Tammye Honey


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Findings along the Way Part I


Switch of medications today was quite interesting as taking off from minipress and seroquel combo with ambien to a half of zoloft.  The cocktail mixture did increase his appetite and make him fall to sleep right away but he only slept for a few hours.

Zoloft has kept the appetite which is great and he has gone to bed two hours later.  Time will tell how long he sleeps.  Hopefully all night with no problems or nightmares.   March 4th can’t get here soon enough for the consultation so we know what we are facing and can prepare an accurate plan of attack.

Must ask about H-86 as an alternative instead of chemo if it comes to that.  Although it is experimental could it possibly be less expensive than chemo?  I guess if they will only pay 80% of a mask that he has to have for his CPAP machine and the Machine then goodness knows they would not pay the full shot for anything to do with this either.

During a visit to the Surgeon it was recommended that he be tested for Prostate Cancer with a blood test called PSA.  It tests the area between the two testies since the physical tests that doctors do to the patient can not determine the findings in this area.  We are still waiting to hear the results on the findings.  It has been almost a week.

I have been praying that it will just be a simple procedure of laser and then a plastic surgeon to do corrective surgery following.

God please hear my prayer that the other tests come back good if it be your will.

Saturday Log – He was up early as usual.  Woke me looking for his aspirin and was a tad grouchy but then became very happy after the aspirin kicked in.  Has been in a good mood since.

Sunday Feb- 23 He has a vision (half dreaming) that there are clouds around him with children smiling and his father smiling and looking at him.  He asks me to take his temperature and it shows as a low grade temp.  I wait for an hour and take again.  The thermometer suddenly reads the minimum reading.  No matter what I do to it, I can’t get it to read.

He does not tell me about his dream.  I ask him two different times, trying to stay calm to let me take him to the emergency room and both times he said that he needs a nap.  He suddenly appears in my office with his coat on and states he is ready to go.

We spend from noon till 7PM with a heart monitor and two IV’s later, I get to bring him home.  When we had arrived, his blood pressure was 145/84.  That is really high for him.  His temp was low grade but not as low as my thermometer.  96.7 at the er.  We came home and I prepared Chicken with garlic, stewed tomatoes, spinach and bowtie macaroni so that I could pack a few more vitamins in him.  He did eat.

Monday-  Getting him to eat Special K breakfast bars has been wonderful.  (Great invention) He had the chicken dish for lunch.  Much better mood although he is still tired.  I am exhausted so I am sure he is.

Tuesday-  We have a few errands to run, he is craving Chinese food.  http://www1.beyondmenu.com/20518/clarksville/chopsticks-restaurant–first-order-15–off–clarksville-37042.aspx?r=20518
He does manage to eat a big plate of what I prepare for him and a bowl of wonton soup.  Around midnight he got up and had another plate of food.

Wednesday- He has managed to sleep a little longer than he usually does so this is good.  Quiet day today.  Lots of energy today and has a good appetite.  Spirits are up and down throught the day.  Not sleeping well at night.  He managed to polish off most of the left over Chinese food from Chopsticks.

Thursday – We are up super early to fit our showers in before we head to see the Lung Specialist.  Hubby seems to like this doctor a lot.  He has a very heavy European accent and yet his bed side manner is such that you feel right at home and comfortable with him right away.  It helps that he can tell hubby that he also sleeps with a C-Pac machine and the setting is almost the same as his.
Interesting discussion while in the office today.  Melanoma is the only cancer that can not be traced back to tobacco or it’s use.
We grabbed an open hot roast beef sandwich with veggie at https://www.facebook.com/mosssoutherncooking.  Have never had anything but that sandwich there.  Why change a great thing…
Tonight I made him Shrimp Scampi since that is what he began to think about on the way home from the doctor.  All I could think about was how full I was from lunch.
Tomorrow he was supposed to travel to Nashville for the VA for an appointment but today has really tired him and we will reschedule that appointment since it was not related to the illness to a later date when we are finished with all of the doctor appointments.

We only know it is sun exposure or radiation exposure. We only know that it is stage III but not which stage III.

According to http://www.cancer.org/cancer/skincancer-melanoma/detailedguide/melanoma-skin-cancer-staging here is a brief breakdown on the findings:

Stage IIIA

T1a to T4a, N1a or N2a, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness, but it is not ulcerated. It has spread to 1 to 3 lymph nodes near the affected skin area, but the nodes are not enlarged and the melanoma is found only when they are viewed under the microscope. There is no distant spread.

Stage IIIB

One of the following applies:

T1b to T4b, N1a or N2a, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness and is ulcerated. It has spread to 1 to 3 lymph nodes near the affected skin area, but the nodes are not enlarged and the melanoma is found only when they are viewed under the microscope. There is no distant spread.

T1a to T4a, N1b or N2b, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness, but it is not ulcerated. It has spread to 1 to 3 lymph nodes near the affected skin area. The nodes are enlarged because of the melanoma. There is no distant spread.

T1a to T4a, N2c, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness, but it is not ulcerated. It has spread to small areas of nearby skin or lymphatic channels around the original tumor, but the nodes do not contain melanoma. There is no distant spread.

Stage IIIC

One of the following applies:

T1b to T4b, N1b or N2b, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness and is ulcerated. It has spread to 1 to 3 lymph nodes near the affected skin area. The nodes are enlarged because of the melanoma. There is no distant spread.

T1b to T4b, N2c, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness and is ulcerated. It has spread to small areas of nearby skin or lymphatic channels around the original tumor, but the nodes do not contain melanoma. There is no distant spread.

Any T, N3, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness and may or may not be ulcerated. It has spread to 4 or more nearby lymph nodes, OR to nearby lymph nodes that are clumped together, OR it has spread to nearby skin or lymphatic channels around the original tumor and to nearby lymph nodes. The nodes are enlarged because of the melanoma. There is no distant spread.

Our next step is to find out which category that he fits into:

  • T stands for tumor (how far it has grown within the skin and other factors). The T category is assigned a number (from 0 to 4) based on the tumor’s thickness (how far down it has grown). It may also be assigned a small letter a or b based on ulceration and mitotic rate, which are explained below.
  • N stands for spread to nearby lymph nodes (bean-sized collections of immune system cells, to which cancers often spread first). The N category is assigned a number (from 0 to 3) based on whether the melanoma cells have spread to lymph nodes or are found in the lymphatic channels connecting the lymph nodes. It may also be assigned a small letter a, b, or c, as described below.
  • The M category is based on whether the melanoma has metastasized (spread) to distant organs, which organs it has reached, and on blood levels of a substance called LDH.

There are 2 types of staging for melanoma:

  • Clinical staging is based on what is found on physical exam, biopsy/removal of the main melanoma, and any imaging tests that are done.
  • Pathologic staging uses all of this information, plus what is found during biopsies of lymph nodes or other organs if they are done.

The pathologic stage (determined after the lymph node biopsy) may actually be higher than the clinical stage (determined before the lymph node biopsy) if the biopsy finds cancer in new areas. Doctors use the pathologic stage if it is available, as it gives a more accurate picture of the extent of the cancer, but in many cases lymph node biopsies are not needed.

They have come a long way with modern medicine and laser sugeries have made a huge difference in the various techniques that are used today.

This we will find out after the March 4th Visit.  

Next week I will start Part II of the findings.

Till then eat healthy, be loving and be kind to those around you.

Tammye Honey

 

 


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Daily Prompt: The meaning of love


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What does love mean to you?

by Scott Berkun on August 5, 2011

Topic #210:

What does love mean to you?
We talk about love all the time, but rarely do we sit down and think about what it is.
How our behavior helps us get more or less of the kind of love we desire.

How does platonic love differ from romantic love?
How does the love we get from a parent differ from the love we get from a friend?
Or a dog?
Is love a feeling or a set of behaviors?

This topic suggested by Timmer at Timmer’s blog.

There are so many forms of love.
Truly love should be unconditional no matter who or what it is directed to.

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Animals love unconditionally no matter who their owner is.

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They do not distinguish between gender or species, or race.

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They set an example for all of the humans.

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There are a lot more variations of love though:

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The love of Birds

Rather than reach under a cupboard

The Love of Cooking

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Emmylou Harris and me on stage at the Grand Ole Opry

The Love of Music

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The Love of Your Country

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The Love of a great tub bath

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The Love of Great Friends

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The love of a spouse

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Your Home

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Love of Religion

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The Love of a child and family

I have explored just a few relationships that require love that is or should be unconditional.

Would love to hear your thoughts on this subject so leave a comment.

Here are what other Daily Prompt Writers had to say:

http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2011/08/05/what-does-love-mean-to-you/

Hope your day is filled with love and happiness

Tammye Honey

 


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Daily Prompt: Food Good For The Soul


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Daily Prompt: Food for the Soul (and the Stomach)

by michelle w. on November 11, 2013

Tell us about your favorite meal, either to eat or to prepare.
Does it just taste great, or does it have other associations?

Photographers, artists, poets: show us FOOD.

In our home I cook from scratch for almost every meal that we have.
I use corn free products and shop at our local Korean Market to purchase items such as Rice Flour or Potato Starch, Rice Starch and Panko.

My Italian Bread Crumbs have to start with the Panko and then add my own Italian Spices.
Some we actually grow on our window sill in Winter months.

Our treat is when we can make a meal with guests visiting and then make a video while making the meal.

It not only creates a memory that will last, inspires our creative juices and makes the meal more interesting.

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To have fun, and enjoy a nutritious meal with friends…

Who could ask for anything more.

Special shout out to our Veterans today and their Spouses… Thank you for your service to our Country!

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Here are a few other inspirational ideas from Daily Prompt Writers:

  1. Daily Prompt: Food for the Soul (and the Stomach) | Awl and Scribe
  2. Food for the Soul (and the Stomach) | Geek Ergo Sum
  3. Daily Prompt: Food for the Soul (and the Stomach) | Under the Monkey Tree
  4. How to make an omelette, for Dummies- Daily Prompt | The Rider
  5. My Heart and Soul… | Haiku By Ku
  6. Everyone Loves Waffles | It’s a wonderful F’N life
  7. The Feel of Taste | Barefoot on Rainy Days
  8. ‘If music be the food of love, play on!’ | alienorajt
  9. Spaghetti and a silent prayer | paperdollsletter
  10. Food for the Soul | Finale to an Entrance
  11. My Favourite Meal | Bizzimummy’s World
  12. Top Ten Specials | vicbriggs’s blog
 Thank you for viewing

We appreciate your comments and questions

Tammye Honey


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Daily Prompt: Connecting the Dots Each Day


Daily Prompt: Connect the Dots

Scour the news for an entirely uninteresting story.
Consider how it connects to your life.
Write about that.

Photographers, artists, poets: show us a CONNECTION.

I am going to state ahead of time that I will possible ruffle a few feathers with this article.  
This is fine since comments are welcome of all opinions.

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I chose to write about PTSD and it’s effects on lives of the family members of those who have it.
It is not just the person who has it who suffers from this.  The research is so in the dark for a cure.

Despite being told by a psychiatrist not to watch the Military Channel someone with PTSD can be drawn to it like flys to honey.

The path to recover is a long and slow path with a lot of work for the individual and the family.

Patience is the key.  Some days it feels as if alzheimer’s disease has kicked in or a bad case of “deja vous”  as the day progresses the little triggers kick in.

Night time is worse in our home and the dream medication will work some nights and other nights it is as if it were never taken.  Not only does the person relive the encounter, the spouse also spends the evening having the same experience.  This makes for a very long night and very little restful sleep.  

To put the day back into prospective the next morning is always very interesting.  Bringing the subject back to the current day (which I have done throughout the night at times also) is sometimes easier after a cup of coffee.  

My prayer is that they find a real cure for it rather than give a combination of pills that work as a “cocktail”.
I have found my spouse on the floor from these wonderful combinations as the sudden drop in blood pressure causes the body to drop where the subject is.  

This is dangerous.  After playing russian roulette with the various medications, being off from the majority of them has been the only answer.

Hense, the suffering continues.  The good news is that only the family is the ones who are suffering since the subject really does not realize what is happening most of the time.
Going to a grocery store and trying to go down an isle does not seem like a big deal unless you are a person with PTSD.  The problem is that the family sometimes forgets this and turns to find the subject missing.  They are left standing in the isle talking to themself as they turn to find the subject has disappeared.  Frustration has just set in for everyone.  Both the subject who has had an episode and the family member who now has to stop and begin a quest to find the subject.  What started out as a simple few object shopping list trip has now become a few hours.  
There are other days that the trip goes very smoothly and rapidly as one would normally plan and life is awesome.  The amazing part of PTSD is that there are no pre indicators.  It is not like a migraine where you get the warning signs.  

My answer to it all is simply…Tomorrow is truly another day.

Would love to hear from my readers about how you feel about this.  
Leave a comment and let me know.

Tammye Honey

 

 


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Daily Prompt: Weekend In Review of MikeFest 2013


Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headline

Write about something that happened over the weekend as thought it’s the top story on your local paper.

Photographers, artists, poets show us something from your WEEKEND.

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Wounded Warrior Sgt. Keith Hale

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So that was our weekend in a quick review…How  was your weekend?
Here is what other Daily Prompt Writers had to say:

  1. Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headline – show us something from your WEEKEND. | masadiso79’s Blog
  2. Bored dog gets new chill out pad |
  3. PADE! In The Headlines TodayThings To Rave About | Things To Rave About
  4. Bye, bye Culture! | Kallu’s Curio Corner
  5. GES TODAY : Man finds out things about another Man | Geek Ergo Sum
  6. Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headline « Mama Bear Musings
  7. Local Man Discovers “Doctor Who” | Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headline | likereadingontrains
  8. Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headline or Weekend | Books, Music and Movies : my best friends
  9. The Big Bang theory proved to be… (Daily Prompt) | The Rider
  10. Area Man Discovers His Motivation Is “I Got Bored” | Eyes Through The Glass – A Blog About Asperger’s
  11. Boise, Idaho; A Whole Lot More That Potatoes | The Jittery Goat
  12. Local Blogger Examines Normality, Receives Feedback, Recognition | Creative Mysteries
  13. De muurtjes (klik op een foto voor groot) | Jeroen Mank
  14. Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headline | Live, Love, Laugh, Dance, Pray
  15. Daily Prompt: Ripped Into The Headlines // 365 Day 136 – Weekend | AmiLoo’s Photography
  16. Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headline | Maggie’s Blog
  17. Ripped Into the Headline : Delightful Surprise | That Chick Piggy
  18. Staying in Focus: Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headlines/Home Invasion | Staying in Focus
  19. Daily Prompt ~ Weekend | WoollyMuses
  20. Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headline | The Tarot Alchemist
  21. Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headline | Overcoming Bloglessness
  22. Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headline | My Tropical Home
  23. Daily Prompt: Ripped Into the Headline — I have misplaced my outrage … | SERENDIPITY
  24. Grab a Bucket and Don’t Forget your Earplugs! | It’s a wonderful F’N life
  25. Ripped Into the Headline | The Nameless One
  26. Headline: Disaster Narrowly Averted | BCIJo

Now it is time to rest and unpack…

A Shout out to my daughter as today is her birthday…

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My two beautiful daughters (Birthday girl is on left)

Tammye Honey