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Writing 101: Day 5 A Brief Encounter (Part II of A Part III Series of Day 4)


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The letter read that he had left because of his PTSD.  He knew how much his crying out at night was upsetting her and he did not want to hurt her any more.
He loved her with all of his heart and owed her every thing.  He did not feel it was fair to make her suffer the way that he did each night in his mind as he relived his war days.
As I turned the envelope over I could see drops of tears on the front with slight drips of mascara.

On the bottom, there was an impression of a kiss with a scribbled note that said I will find you.


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Writing 101: Day 4, Losses in Life (Part One of a Three Part Series)


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Write about a loss: something (or someone) that was part of your life, and isn’t any more.

When I first read this and thought about the three part idea it was a bit intriguing as to what my topic would actually end up being about by the time that I get to part three.  I was not certain if the losses should be about times in my life where material things were taken out of my life without my having any power over it.  Then it occured to me that material things were always replaced.  They were only temporary in this life.  They were not human or an animal with feelings.  We might have sentimental feelings about them, however, once they have vanished from our lives we do carry on without tears.  When we lose a loved one, be it a human or an animal we do shed a lot of tears.  Some people mourn much longer than others.  There is no time period set on how long a person is to mourn a loss.

Gamblers mourn a loss of a game.  That does not stop them from betting the next one and perhaps losing big again.  It is still a loss but it is not the same pain that is felt as a loss of a loved one.  To lose a tennis match is a small ouch compared to having your dog get hit by a car.  Yet some peoples reactions are such that they resemble the same.  People become so caught up in the moment that every emotion comes into play.  They feel the adrenalin rushing into their system and have a complete reaction.  Some people do not recover as well as others.  Those people tend to slowly sink into a deep depression.  This does not happen over night.

PTSD is a form of depression as it takes a person back to a bad place in their life and has them re-live that over and over as if they were there and right back in that moment in time.  There is no cure at the moment for this and it is one of the hardest forms of depression to be diagnosed.  It not only takes a toll on the person that is suffering from it but also the family that is with that person and lives through that same moment as well.  We will explore this further in the next part of the series.

The depression begins slowly.  They begin to not care about things that they used to.  What goals they had set for themselves are suddenly fading.  Doing things becomes a real chore.  As each day progesses they find themselves doing less of what used to make them happy.  I have watched a few friends who are slowly climbing into the dark hole of depression and it is very sad.  It is very difficult to watch and although you want to try and help, they are the only ones who can help themselves.

The largest problem with a person with depression is a lot of times, they don’t realize that they are really depressed.  They do not realize that it is happening to them.  They can’t see the gradual changes that you have been seeing.  They don’t see the changes in their behavior and manorisms.  They do not see the decline in the lifestyle that you do on the outside looking in.  That is the most painful part.

What can you do to help?

We will explore that in parts II and III so come back….

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Tammye Honey


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Daily Prompt: Food Good For The Soul


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Daily Prompt: Food for the Soul (and the Stomach)

by michelle w. on November 11, 2013

Tell us about your favorite meal, either to eat or to prepare.
Does it just taste great, or does it have other associations?

Photographers, artists, poets: show us FOOD.

In our home I cook from scratch for almost every meal that we have.
I use corn free products and shop at our local Korean Market to purchase items such as Rice Flour or Potato Starch, Rice Starch and Panko.

My Italian Bread Crumbs have to start with the Panko and then add my own Italian Spices.
Some we actually grow on our window sill in Winter months.

Our treat is when we can make a meal with guests visiting and then make a video while making the meal.

It not only creates a memory that will last, inspires our creative juices and makes the meal more interesting.

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To have fun, and enjoy a nutritious meal with friends…

Who could ask for anything more.

Special shout out to our Veterans today and their Spouses… Thank you for your service to our Country!

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Here are a few other inspirational ideas from Daily Prompt Writers:

  1. Daily Prompt: Food for the Soul (and the Stomach) | Awl and Scribe
  2. Food for the Soul (and the Stomach) | Geek Ergo Sum
  3. Daily Prompt: Food for the Soul (and the Stomach) | Under the Monkey Tree
  4. How to make an omelette, for Dummies- Daily Prompt | The Rider
  5. My Heart and Soul… | Haiku By Ku
  6. Everyone Loves Waffles | It’s a wonderful F’N life
  7. The Feel of Taste | Barefoot on Rainy Days
  8. ‘If music be the food of love, play on!’ | alienorajt
  9. Spaghetti and a silent prayer | paperdollsletter
  10. Food for the Soul | Finale to an Entrance
  11. My Favourite Meal | Bizzimummy’s World
  12. Top Ten Specials | vicbriggs’s blog
 Thank you for viewing

We appreciate your comments and questions

Tammye Honey


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Daily Prompt: Connecting the Dots Each Day


Daily Prompt: Connect the Dots

Scour the news for an entirely uninteresting story.
Consider how it connects to your life.
Write about that.

Photographers, artists, poets: show us a CONNECTION.

I am going to state ahead of time that I will possible ruffle a few feathers with this article.  
This is fine since comments are welcome of all opinions.

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I chose to write about PTSD and it’s effects on lives of the family members of those who have it.
It is not just the person who has it who suffers from this.  The research is so in the dark for a cure.

Despite being told by a psychiatrist not to watch the Military Channel someone with PTSD can be drawn to it like flys to honey.

The path to recover is a long and slow path with a lot of work for the individual and the family.

Patience is the key.  Some days it feels as if alzheimer’s disease has kicked in or a bad case of “deja vous”  as the day progresses the little triggers kick in.

Night time is worse in our home and the dream medication will work some nights and other nights it is as if it were never taken.  Not only does the person relive the encounter, the spouse also spends the evening having the same experience.  This makes for a very long night and very little restful sleep.  

To put the day back into prospective the next morning is always very interesting.  Bringing the subject back to the current day (which I have done throughout the night at times also) is sometimes easier after a cup of coffee.  

My prayer is that they find a real cure for it rather than give a combination of pills that work as a “cocktail”.
I have found my spouse on the floor from these wonderful combinations as the sudden drop in blood pressure causes the body to drop where the subject is.  

This is dangerous.  After playing russian roulette with the various medications, being off from the majority of them has been the only answer.

Hense, the suffering continues.  The good news is that only the family is the ones who are suffering since the subject really does not realize what is happening most of the time.
Going to a grocery store and trying to go down an isle does not seem like a big deal unless you are a person with PTSD.  The problem is that the family sometimes forgets this and turns to find the subject missing.  They are left standing in the isle talking to themself as they turn to find the subject has disappeared.  Frustration has just set in for everyone.  Both the subject who has had an episode and the family member who now has to stop and begin a quest to find the subject.  What started out as a simple few object shopping list trip has now become a few hours.  
There are other days that the trip goes very smoothly and rapidly as one would normally plan and life is awesome.  The amazing part of PTSD is that there are no pre indicators.  It is not like a migraine where you get the warning signs.  

My answer to it all is simply…Tomorrow is truly another day.

Would love to hear from my readers about how you feel about this.  
Leave a comment and let me know.

Tammye Honey

 

 


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Road Trip A-Z Challenge Day 18


Post A-to-Z Road Trip [2013]

http://www.a-to-zchallenge.com/2013/05/want-to-join-us-for-ultimate-road-trip.html







Happy Memorial Day…Stay safe

Tammye Honey


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Road Trip A-Z Challenge Day 6


Post A-to-Z Road Trip [2013]

 

http://www.a-to-zchallenge.com/2013/05/want-to-join-us-for-ultimate-road-trip.html
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So excited to start the journey today to tell you about an awesome site that found me…

http://homecomingvets.com/

About

 

This blog is dedicated to Canada’s homecoming vets and their families.

People forget that soldiers returning home are not the only victims of the wars they’ve fought. So are their loved ones, families and friends. They need as much social assistance as the soldiers themselves. Those coming home are forever changed. They have experienced things the rest of us can’t imagine. They carry this psychological burden for the rest of their lives.

After eight years of fighting in Afghanistan, the public needs to get behind our vets and demand the social services they deserve and need. This is the most important tribute we can give our returning vets for the sacrifices they’ve made on behalf of our country.

Our next stop on the road trip is to a different type of blog that I really love a DIY spot.

http://diaryofamadcrafter.wordpress.com

I’m an avid crafter, and I love cooking and baking. I’m a nail technician and a salesassociate at Michael’s Art’s & Crafts (where I spend my entire paycheck before I get it each week). When I’m not working, I’m crafting and spending time with my husband and our pupperoni, Roscoe. I made my first shirt when I was 5 years old on my little, yellow, plastic sewing machine. I have my Mom to thank for that! I always remember crafting with her since before I can remember. When I was about 20, I became a vegan and started cooking up a storm, because if you’re a vegan, you better learn to cook! I started off with the Boca burgers and all that processed stuff, and realized that although it was vegan, wasn’t too healthy. Enter The Natural Gourmet Institute. GREAT experience, but I’d NEVER do it again….I had a 2 hour commute every morning and evening, and once I started my internship at Pure Food and Wine, I would be in the city ALL day and then come home, pass out and wake up to do it all over again. On my weekends, I’d have my nail clients, leaving me with no time to do anything! After school, I began working at Pure Food and Wine, in which I still had a pretty sucky commute, but LOVED the job. After I left Pure, I pretty much enjoyed having about half a year doing NOTHING, and then began working at Michaels. Two months after I started there, my husband proposed to me, and alllll the stressfulness of planning a wedding left me with no time, or energy to cook, or craft. FINALLY, about 5 months after the wedding, I’m back!! It took way too long, but I’m LOVING it.

So anyyyways, I started this blog because whenever I’d post something on Pinterest, I’d have to try to describe how I made it in as little words as possible in a little comment box….obnoxious. So now that I have a blog (which everyone on my Facebook prompted me to create after my endless picture posts of what I created throughout the day) and I can finally share with everyone what I’ve made, and help them create it too! Because there is nothing in the world I love more than getting someone as excited as I do about making something your own! Pretty much everything that I’ve been making lately has been inspired by Pinterest; in my opinion, the best invention EVER.

Be sure to like her on Face Book while you are there too…

Next stop is for a great place to find a good laugh or two…

http://imagesonconcretewordsonpaper.wordpress.com

just as the title says this blog is about words, images, solid, statements, foundations, what goes on paper, what is on the ground, growth, and whatever the blogger

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part of my family knows about a terrifying moment of my life when I was finding myself as a teen. I was routinely use for sexual purposes by a man who at first I thought was a friend, I could trust. He took me to a place an apartment suite in the west end of Edmonton. A suite he had access to which became a part of my dirty secret for over 3 years. He even took me to his home and had on the bed he shared with his wife, I felt evil I hate myself for not saying anything at the time.
He gave me money and made sex into means of gaining favour from others. I was confused and hurt.
I had come out of the Glenrose School Hospital for sick children’s, 3rd floor mental health ward for children. I was not behaving like a boy, more like a female. I love sewing, cooking, flowers, crafts, etc. I was told that I could not do those things and put in a workshop to do so called ‘boys’ stuff. I was so confused and struggled with the fact that I was called a fag or sissy yet confused, I liked others boys I wanted to be housewife one day. The sexual things started as I was beginning to come out of the hospital at a family gathering, a engagement party with both families of my brother and sister-in-law. He tickled me, he fed me grapes made me feel, confused. He confused me.
I held that into myself from my family and friends until I was thirty some. Most of my family believed me and accepted me except the man’s side of our family, my brother. It hurt me to share it. I was treated like I did an evil thing.
When I was in my forty’s I struggle for the last time with being in the body. I had tried prayer, religion, spirituality, and more religion, you get the picture. Then I decided to transition to have Gender Reassignment Surgery to bring my body to meet my mind and soul of a woman. In January 2009 my body match with my mind and soul. I am now a female.
Weird, that some members of my family decided to agree with my brother and say I was the liar.
I was not always honesty or truthful, I hide my desire to be a woman, even made statements against it. Yet always finding the woman the female inside of me.
I have been very alone. Very little acceptance by my family or even attempts of getting to know the female I have become. My friends I could understand but my family, not all a few of my nephews have talked to me and keep in touch with me, a few hellos from some.
I would love to go to family events. Yet from a few contacts early in my transition to weddings, felt like my family was uncomfortable with me.
I just feel like a outcast the black evil,….
I live a moral life, in that I care about others. I am more of a humanist then a Christian, actually more of a agnostic or atheist if you want a title.
I am though Axcella the daughter of Peter and Ruth. I am related to my the sons and daughter of Peter and Ruth.
This is written as a result of watching the movie, “The Perks of Being a Wallflower” check it out if you want.
This was what was on my mind.

Our next visit is to http://atomickaleidoscope.wordpress.com/

A succinct and eclectic Electronics Engineer by profession although I preferred to teach as a passion. In this journey called life all i can say is : C’EST LA VIE ! CHEERS!

Since these sites are so full of information to check out for you I will only visit one more today so that you do not spend the entire day lost in information.

http://teepee12.com/

 

SERENDIPITY

A friend told me she never knows what I’m going to write about, so it’s always a surprise. That makes at least two of us. Until my little lightbulb goes off, I don’t know what I’m going to say either. I have a lot of varied interests: history, photography, philosophy, religion, politics, ecology, technology. I’m a bit of a geek and I do enjoy my toys. Serendipity is appropriate, I guess. Grab bag would work too.

I try to be on the right side of issues. I do my best to align with the righteous on the side of justice, kindness, and giving everyone the benefit of a doubt. I don’t always live up to my own best self, but I try. You are welcome here and I ask only that you don’t insult anyone, not me or anyone who comments here. I reserve the right to delete or edit your comments. Sometimes I delete comments because they’re too long. Extended interchanges are better done in private email. I prefer not to have essays in comments. You are welcome to email me directly at fivedawgz@gmail.com. I find it awkward when a comment exceeds the length of the original post.

Did I mention that I love dogs? And photography? Words? I am perhaps excessively fond of cleverness and clever people. Plays on words make me giggle. My favorite piece of music is Beethoven’s 6th Symphony. Which doesn’t mean I don’t love country music, folk music, some very hard rock … I’m nothing if not eclectic.

As far as participating on this site, civility counts. Please be nice. We can be civil, even if we are not of the same mind.

This is not a public forum. For good or ill, democracy does not prevail here. If you want a fight, you can’t have it  here. I don’t want this site to be a battleground, nor do I want long disputes. There’s more than enough of that on social media sites. Therefore, on my site, when I say the conversation is over when I’ve had enough.

I write about everything and nothing. Sometimes I’m current, sometimes I wander off into stuff that I find interesting and maybe you won’t. That’s the joy of writing without a boss looking over my shoulder. After a lifetime of writing for a living, I treasure the freedom to say whatever I want.

I offer you some memories, many thoughts, stories, and pictures. The photographs are mine unless obviously otherwise or credited to someone else. If it’s a picture of me, it’s a good bet I didn’t take it. I also reblog postings that I think you will find interesting … or that I find interesting or funny or in some other way special.

Welcome, whoever you are, wherever you are.

So double check what you about page says because you never know, I may be stopping at your site tomorrow…

This has been a fun road trip and I can’t wait to see what day 7 brings.

Tammye Honey


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Sharing PTSD Thoughts


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About PTSD

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PTSD: Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder caused by very stressful, frightening or distressing events.

The type of events that can cause PTSD include:
military combat
serious road accidents
terrorist attacks
natural disasters, such as severe floods, earthquakes or tsunamis
being held hostage
witnessing violent deaths
violent personal assaults, such as sexual assault, mugging or robbery

PTSD can develop immediately after someone experiences a disturbing event or it can occur weeks, months or even years later. It can develop in any situation where a person feels extreme fear, horror or helplessness. However, it doesn’t usually develop after situations that are simply upsetting, such as divorce, job loss or failing exams.

Signs & Symptoms of PTSD
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can be difficult to diagnose because people who experience traumatic events often don’t want to talk about their feelings. Also, people with PTSD may not seek treatment for many months or years after their symptoms appear.

The symptoms of PTSD usually develop during the first month after a person witnesses a traumatic event. However, in a minority of cases (less than 15%), there may be a delay of months or even years before symptoms start to appear. Some people experience long periods when their symptoms are less noticeable. This is known as symptom remission. These periods are often followed by an increase in symptoms. Other people with PTSD have severe symptoms that are constant.

Someone with PTSD will often relive the traumatic event through nightmares and flashbacks, and they may experience feelings of isolation, irritability and guilt. They may also have problems sleeping, such as insomnia, and find concentrating difficult. These symptoms are often severe and persistent enough to have asignificant impact on the person’s day-to-day life

Up to 30% of people who witness a traumatic event then go on to experience some of the symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). These symptoms can vary widely between individuals.
Re-experiencing- Re-experiencing is the most typical symptom of PTSD: A person will involuntarily and vividly relive the traumatic event in the form of flashbacks, nightmares or repetitive and distressing images or sensations. Being reminded of the traumatic event can evoke distressing memories and cause considerable anguish.

Avoidance: Trying to avoid being reminded of the traumatic event is another key symptom of PTSD. Reminders can take the form of people, situations or circumstances that resemble or are associated with the event. Many people with PTSD will try to push memories of the event out of their mind. They do not like thinking or talking about the event in detail. Some people repeatedly ask themselves questions that prevent them from coming to terms with the event. For example, they may wonder why the event happened to them and whether it could have been prevented.

Hyperarousal (feeling ‘on edge’): Someone with PTSD may be very anxious and find it difficult to relax. They may be constantly aware of threats and easily startled. This state of mind is known as hyperarousal. Irritability, angry outbursts, sleeping problems and difficulty concentrating are also common.

Emotional numbing: Some people with PTSD deal with their feelings by trying not to feel anything at all. This is known as emotional numbing. They may feel detached or isolated from others, or guilty. Someone with PTSD can often seem deep in thought and withdrawn. They may also give up pursuing the activities that they used to enjoy.

Other possible signs & symptoms of PTSD include:
depression, anxiety and phobias
drug misuse or alcohol misuse
sweating, shaking, headaches, dizziness, chest pains and stomach upsets
having vivid memories, flashbacks or nightmares about the event
trying to avoid things that remind you of the event
sometimes feeling emotionally numb
often feeling irritable and anxious for no apparent reason
eating more than usual, or drinking alcohol or using drugs more than usual
an inability to control your mood
finding it increasingly difficult to get on with others
having to keep yourself very busy to cope
feeling depressed or exhausted

PTSD sometimes leads to the breakdown of relationships and causes work-related problems.
Treating PTSD
PTSD can be successfully treated, even when it develops many years after a traumatic event.
Any treatment depends on the severity of symptoms and how soon they occur after the traumatic event. The following treatment options may be recommended:
watchful waiting: waiting to see whether the symptoms improve or get worse without treatment
psychological treatment: such as trauma-focused cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) or eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing (EDMR)
medication: such as paroxetine or mirtazapine

***For the record my husband has not been officially diagnosed with PTSD but with the many signs and symptoms he is showing (in bold italics) along with an abusive past, we (him,our initial counsellor and myself) feel that this what he is going through and the route we are exploring with deeper therapy at this time***

I have discovered there is also a link between PTSD and addiction – drink/drugs/gambling/porn etc, 2 of which are relevant to my husband.

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This is real and a part of just about every Veteran who has served in a few tours overseas.  The problem is that the medication only treats part of the problem.  The remainder of the problem is still there and still very real.  It is something that each Veteran lives with and their families every day.

May this bring some attention to the problem and possibly help to stop cutting the benefits that they deserve to get the help they need.

Tammye Honey.