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The Big Day Arrived


Sunday was a really big day in our home.  My hubby had turned 60 on Saturday.

He had decided to be baptised.  We also became members of our local church.1452219_10152223045671395_3784083762256285537_n 10500575_10152223045776395_1105077418240876326_n 10441946_10152223045926395_6668474144332243260_n 10377082_10203067400379045_9040410826595887509_n 10458751_10203062499016514_8189643735771160991_n 10501974_10203061794718907_6800928585933687816_n

 

Thank you for traveling through our day…we had a huge picnic that was a wonderful success thanks to the wonderful women from Oakwood Freewill Baptist Church and all of their help.   There was so much food that every table was full.  Special thanks to Pastor James for the Baptisim and making such a difference in my hubby’s life.  Also a special shout out to hubby’s son Christopher Green who helped in the kitchen as well as being the grill master for the day.

Tammye Green.

 


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Our Video Has Gone Over The Top


 

We made that video for the fun of it and that was a really fun one to make.

Now it is at 102,856 Views.  We would like to tell all of our Subscribers Thank you.

To the 26 people who did not like it we are so sorry.  Perhaps you will like one of our other 85.

Have a wonderful day.

Tammye Honey and Eman


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Writing 101 Day 7 Give and Take or The Revolving Door


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Write a post based on the contrast between two things 

Our cat T. C. is an old “Garfield” in his color and attitude.  He has managed to lose some weight since moving to the South from the North since he can go out during the Winter months and get some exercise as well.  His food sits on top of the washing machine so that our dog Peachy will not eat every last morsel in existence.  He is more than capable of jumping from the floor to the window to the dryer and then walking to the washer.
However, upon arriving into the house, his presence is announced loudly and constantly until he is picked up and placed on the washer next to his dish.  He will sit there and stare at the dish until I have taken my hand and have stirred the dish of dry food several times.  I must then open the sealed container of food and grab a slight hand full and add to the batch and stir again.
He will then nibble for a few minutes.  Just as I am back in my office he will make his presence known again and will either want to be petted or will want to go out.  Once in a great while if it happens to be a stormy day I will hear the childrens piano in the spare bedroom playing and I know that he has decided to take a nap.
When the dogs are fed, he is the first at their dishes to help himself to the bits in the “Kibbles and Bits”.  Then the dogs are allowed to eat.  The dogs will look at us as if to say help!…

Cats rule and dogs drool….

He has a pattern of going in and out all day.  He knows that if he sets off the front door alarm it triggers in my office and I come to the front door.  As I approach the front door I find him sitting there as if asking what took me so long.  He nibbles on some food and is right out the back door to lounge in the sun for a nap in nice weather.  Unless that was just a potty break.

You might be wondering why we tolerate this annoying daily routine.  The reason is because he is somewhere between 15 and 16 years old.  We know that we do not have that much longer to enjoy his company.  His snuggling into bed with me on my right side while the dog Trina is tucked tight against my back on my left side.

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About twice a day he insists that Trina groom him so he will walk under her and continuously butt her head until she begins to groom her.  It always happens so fast that I am never near a camera to record.  One of these days I will get it on record though.

That is the contrast in our lives that has blended well.  Perhaps someday he will decide whether he wants to be out or in lol.

 


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Writing 101: Day 4 Losses in Life (Part Three of a Three Part Series)


writing-101-june-2014-class-badge-2Write about a loss: something (or someone) that was part of your life, and isn’t any more.

To This point we have covered everything from material to personal losses.  We have even touched on the losses of those with addictions.  Then my mind began to ask what else in life could a person lose?

GOD

Sometimes people forget that He did not go anywhere.  He has always been there for us.  It was us who went astray.  We were so caught up in our losses, our work, our familiy or our every day lives.

JESUS

Some people state ok, I love God so what?  I still have to go to work on Monday through Friday and bring home a pay check.  God sent His only son to die on the cross so that anyone who believes in HIM should not perish but have Everlasting Life.   John 3:16 

Where do you really stand in your faith tonight.  If you died tonight…are you sure you would go to heaven?  Have you asked Jesus to be your personal Lord and Savior and cleanse you from all of your sins?

Jesus has created miracles in our family that I would be more than glad to share with you… simply contact me at tammye42@yahoo.com and I will let you know how he made a difference in our lives and in our marriage.  He was able to help me through a lot of difficult times in my life.

I could not have made it my many years if I did not have Jesus on my side and in my heart.

Have a Blessed Sunday

Tammye


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Writing 101: Day 5 A Brief Encounter (Part II of A Part III Series of Day 4)


writing-101-june-2014-class-badge-2You discover a letter on a path that affects you deeply. Today, write about this encounter. And your twist? Be as succinct as possible.

The letter read that he had left because of his PTSD.  He knew how much his crying out at night was upsetting her and he did not want to hurt her any more.
He loved her with all of his heart and owed her every thing.  He did not feel it was fair to make her suffer the way that he did each night in his mind as he relived his war days.
As I turned the envelope over I could see drops of tears on the front with slight drips of mascara.

On the bottom, there was an impression of a kiss with a scribbled note that said I will find you.


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Writing 101: Day 4, Losses in Life (Part One of a Three Part Series)


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Write about a loss: something (or someone) that was part of your life, and isn’t any more.

When I first read this and thought about the three part idea it was a bit intriguing as to what my topic would actually end up being about by the time that I get to part three.  I was not certain if the losses should be about times in my life where material things were taken out of my life without my having any power over it.  Then it occured to me that material things were always replaced.  They were only temporary in this life.  They were not human or an animal with feelings.  We might have sentimental feelings about them, however, once they have vanished from our lives we do carry on without tears.  When we lose a loved one, be it a human or an animal we do shed a lot of tears.  Some people mourn much longer than others.  There is no time period set on how long a person is to mourn a loss.

Gamblers mourn a loss of a game.  That does not stop them from betting the next one and perhaps losing big again.  It is still a loss but it is not the same pain that is felt as a loss of a loved one.  To lose a tennis match is a small ouch compared to having your dog get hit by a car.  Yet some peoples reactions are such that they resemble the same.  People become so caught up in the moment that every emotion comes into play.  They feel the adrenalin rushing into their system and have a complete reaction.  Some people do not recover as well as others.  Those people tend to slowly sink into a deep depression.  This does not happen over night.

PTSD is a form of depression as it takes a person back to a bad place in their life and has them re-live that over and over as if they were there and right back in that moment in time.  There is no cure at the moment for this and it is one of the hardest forms of depression to be diagnosed.  It not only takes a toll on the person that is suffering from it but also the family that is with that person and lives through that same moment as well.  We will explore this further in the next part of the series.

The depression begins slowly.  They begin to not care about things that they used to.  What goals they had set for themselves are suddenly fading.  Doing things becomes a real chore.  As each day progesses they find themselves doing less of what used to make them happy.  I have watched a few friends who are slowly climbing into the dark hole of depression and it is very sad.  It is very difficult to watch and although you want to try and help, they are the only ones who can help themselves.

The largest problem with a person with depression is a lot of times, they don’t realize that they are really depressed.  They do not realize that it is happening to them.  They can’t see the gradual changes that you have been seeing.  They don’t see the changes in their behavior and manorisms.  They do not see the decline in the lifestyle that you do on the outside looking in.  That is the most painful part.

What can you do to help?

We will explore that in parts II and III so come back….

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Tammye Honey


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Writing 101: Day 2 Where would I go today?


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Sometimes we read things on others Facebook posts that were not necessarily meant for us but the point is taken anyways.
Today was one of those days as I glanced upon my wall and saw a post about Motherless by Choice.  It hit a nerve with me and hurt.

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If I could be anywhere today just for a fleeting moment in time it would be to sit next to both of my daughters just for a few minutes of their busy lives.
To be able to give them a hug, a big kiss and tell them that I truly do love them.  How proud I am of them and their success in life.

I know that there are scars in the past life and that they hold them tight.  My heart aches over this and you can’t go back and erase time or get a redo.

Life is a learning curve.  We learn from our mistakes.  We get stronger as we get older and we learn what not to do again.

I have asked forgiveness and was not allowed to have it.  From that one must go one with life.  It does not help the pain.

As I sit here and shed tears it does no good.  I realize this.  Only a head ache will occur.

Just a few minutes to hug my grand children would feel so good.  I am not getting any younger and I know that my health is not getting any better either.
These past few years have really taken a toll on me and as I reflect back it is useless to comprehend on what could have been different.  It can’t change now.

Little do they know that my heart is always with them and that my thoughts follow them through their journey of life.  Even if it is only on Facebook or an occasional text.

Perhaps some day things will be different.  I pray every night that God will soften the pain for all three of us.

 


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Day One: Unlock the Mind


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Unlocking my mind might be a dangerous thing to do.  Once this twenty-minute exercise is over we might just see how dangerous that was.
The exercise is a very basic idea of just let the ideas flow for twenty-five minutes and keep typing to see what happens.  That sounds so easy until you get going.
You find your mind suddenly going in a thousand different directions.

I sat here looking at my keyboard for inspiration and decided to rather just look at my screen and let my fingers do the talking like my cat does.  It always works for him.
Amazingly enough it does flow better.

To update my readers who have been following my blogs since late November, my hubby did go in and have the Double hernia surgery just before Christmas and was home in time to recuperate for Christmas.  Still not feeling too well we did not do much for New Year’s and just gave him a relaxation and get well time.
We had a lot of follow-up visits to different doctors which were painful for him.  He was a trooper through them all and we were able to get through them.

January 16th he had a portion of his lower lip and inner mouth removed and two weeks later we were informed that it was Stage 3 Melanoma Cancer.

Our lives totally went spinning out of control.

We had several bad snow storms and ice storms and had to reschedule appointments.  March 17th my hubby checked into a facility and began a new phase of his life.
One week later he returned home and our true lives began and we were able to start to face the possibilities that we were going to have to endure in the future.
We both began to attend the Oakwood Free Methodist Church across the street from us and my hubby began to find peace with life.
May came along and we were finally able to see the specialist at Vanderbilt Hospital in Nashville Tennessee and what a different approach this doctor had.
She marked his face and stood next to my hubby and I and listened to what he had to say.

She then told him that he only had Stage 1 squamosal Cell Cancer and that she would remove it all before he left from his next visit.

This was a true answer from prayers.

Now he has undergone three surgeries for his mouth and lip and has fully recovered from the surgeries.  You can’t tell that he even had a surgery unless he really shows you that he did.

He has been alcohol free since St. Patrick’s Day.  Life has been quite a blessing with a ton of answered prayers.  We would both like to take a moment and thank everyone who has prayed for us during our time since November and has sent us various notes of encouragement and prayer thoughts.

That was a fast twenty five minutes.  Although I did have several interruptions it still did actually flow quite easily.  I was still able to stay focused enough to stay right on topic and not go into three million directions.

Thank you for reading.

Hopefully now that my life is calming down I will also be getting back into my Cooking and Cookbook blogs as well.

Till tomorrow…..

 


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Home Based Business & A Roadside Stand


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Findings along the Way Part I


Switch of medications today was quite interesting as taking off from minipress and seroquel combo with ambien to a half of zoloft.  The cocktail mixture did increase his appetite and make him fall to sleep right away but he only slept for a few hours.

Zoloft has kept the appetite which is great and he has gone to bed two hours later.  Time will tell how long he sleeps.  Hopefully all night with no problems or nightmares.   March 4th can’t get here soon enough for the consultation so we know what we are facing and can prepare an accurate plan of attack.

Must ask about H-86 as an alternative instead of chemo if it comes to that.  Although it is experimental could it possibly be less expensive than chemo?  I guess if they will only pay 80% of a mask that he has to have for his CPAP machine and the Machine then goodness knows they would not pay the full shot for anything to do with this either.

During a visit to the Surgeon it was recommended that he be tested for Prostate Cancer with a blood test called PSA.  It tests the area between the two testies since the physical tests that doctors do to the patient can not determine the findings in this area.  We are still waiting to hear the results on the findings.  It has been almost a week.

I have been praying that it will just be a simple procedure of laser and then a plastic surgeon to do corrective surgery following.

God please hear my prayer that the other tests come back good if it be your will.

Saturday Log – He was up early as usual.  Woke me looking for his aspirin and was a tad grouchy but then became very happy after the aspirin kicked in.  Has been in a good mood since.

Sunday Feb- 23 He has a vision (half dreaming) that there are clouds around him with children smiling and his father smiling and looking at him.  He asks me to take his temperature and it shows as a low grade temp.  I wait for an hour and take again.  The thermometer suddenly reads the minimum reading.  No matter what I do to it, I can’t get it to read.

He does not tell me about his dream.  I ask him two different times, trying to stay calm to let me take him to the emergency room and both times he said that he needs a nap.  He suddenly appears in my office with his coat on and states he is ready to go.

We spend from noon till 7PM with a heart monitor and two IV’s later, I get to bring him home.  When we had arrived, his blood pressure was 145/84.  That is really high for him.  His temp was low grade but not as low as my thermometer.  96.7 at the er.  We came home and I prepared Chicken with garlic, stewed tomatoes, spinach and bowtie macaroni so that I could pack a few more vitamins in him.  He did eat.

Monday-  Getting him to eat Special K breakfast bars has been wonderful.  (Great invention) He had the chicken dish for lunch.  Much better mood although he is still tired.  I am exhausted so I am sure he is.

Tuesday-  We have a few errands to run, he is craving Chinese food.  http://www1.beyondmenu.com/20518/clarksville/chopsticks-restaurant–first-order-15–off–clarksville-37042.aspx?r=20518
He does manage to eat a big plate of what I prepare for him and a bowl of wonton soup.  Around midnight he got up and had another plate of food.

Wednesday- He has managed to sleep a little longer than he usually does so this is good.  Quiet day today.  Lots of energy today and has a good appetite.  Spirits are up and down throught the day.  Not sleeping well at night.  He managed to polish off most of the left over Chinese food from Chopsticks.

Thursday – We are up super early to fit our showers in before we head to see the Lung Specialist.  Hubby seems to like this doctor a lot.  He has a very heavy European accent and yet his bed side manner is such that you feel right at home and comfortable with him right away.  It helps that he can tell hubby that he also sleeps with a C-Pac machine and the setting is almost the same as his.
Interesting discussion while in the office today.  Melanoma is the only cancer that can not be traced back to tobacco or it’s use.
We grabbed an open hot roast beef sandwich with veggie at https://www.facebook.com/mosssoutherncooking.  Have never had anything but that sandwich there.  Why change a great thing…
Tonight I made him Shrimp Scampi since that is what he began to think about on the way home from the doctor.  All I could think about was how full I was from lunch.
Tomorrow he was supposed to travel to Nashville for the VA for an appointment but today has really tired him and we will reschedule that appointment since it was not related to the illness to a later date when we are finished with all of the doctor appointments.

We only know it is sun exposure or radiation exposure. We only know that it is stage III but not which stage III.

According to http://www.cancer.org/cancer/skincancer-melanoma/detailedguide/melanoma-skin-cancer-staging here is a brief breakdown on the findings:

Stage IIIA

T1a to T4a, N1a or N2a, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness, but it is not ulcerated. It has spread to 1 to 3 lymph nodes near the affected skin area, but the nodes are not enlarged and the melanoma is found only when they are viewed under the microscope. There is no distant spread.

Stage IIIB

One of the following applies:

T1b to T4b, N1a or N2a, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness and is ulcerated. It has spread to 1 to 3 lymph nodes near the affected skin area, but the nodes are not enlarged and the melanoma is found only when they are viewed under the microscope. There is no distant spread.

T1a to T4a, N1b or N2b, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness, but it is not ulcerated. It has spread to 1 to 3 lymph nodes near the affected skin area. The nodes are enlarged because of the melanoma. There is no distant spread.

T1a to T4a, N2c, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness, but it is not ulcerated. It has spread to small areas of nearby skin or lymphatic channels around the original tumor, but the nodes do not contain melanoma. There is no distant spread.

Stage IIIC

One of the following applies:

T1b to T4b, N1b or N2b, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness and is ulcerated. It has spread to 1 to 3 lymph nodes near the affected skin area. The nodes are enlarged because of the melanoma. There is no distant spread.

T1b to T4b, N2c, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness and is ulcerated. It has spread to small areas of nearby skin or lymphatic channels around the original tumor, but the nodes do not contain melanoma. There is no distant spread.

Any T, N3, M0: The melanoma can be of any thickness and may or may not be ulcerated. It has spread to 4 or more nearby lymph nodes, OR to nearby lymph nodes that are clumped together, OR it has spread to nearby skin or lymphatic channels around the original tumor and to nearby lymph nodes. The nodes are enlarged because of the melanoma. There is no distant spread.

Our next step is to find out which category that he fits into:

  • T stands for tumor (how far it has grown within the skin and other factors). The T category is assigned a number (from 0 to 4) based on the tumor’s thickness (how far down it has grown). It may also be assigned a small letter a or b based on ulceration and mitotic rate, which are explained below.
  • N stands for spread to nearby lymph nodes (bean-sized collections of immune system cells, to which cancers often spread first). The N category is assigned a number (from 0 to 3) based on whether the melanoma cells have spread to lymph nodes or are found in the lymphatic channels connecting the lymph nodes. It may also be assigned a small letter a, b, or c, as described below.
  • The M category is based on whether the melanoma has metastasized (spread) to distant organs, which organs it has reached, and on blood levels of a substance called LDH.

There are 2 types of staging for melanoma:

  • Clinical staging is based on what is found on physical exam, biopsy/removal of the main melanoma, and any imaging tests that are done.
  • Pathologic staging uses all of this information, plus what is found during biopsies of lymph nodes or other organs if they are done.

The pathologic stage (determined after the lymph node biopsy) may actually be higher than the clinical stage (determined before the lymph node biopsy) if the biopsy finds cancer in new areas. Doctors use the pathologic stage if it is available, as it gives a more accurate picture of the extent of the cancer, but in many cases lymph node biopsies are not needed.

They have come a long way with modern medicine and laser sugeries have made a huge difference in the various techniques that are used today.

This we will find out after the March 4th Visit.  

Next week I will start Part II of the findings.

Till then eat healthy, be loving and be kind to those around you.

Tammye Honey